I once read an article that said that scientifically women need more sleep because their brains work harder.
I thought to myself this is very true but, oftentimes our brains are working on things that are not worth our energy.
More specifically, people who are not worth our energy.
I’ve spent countless hours talking to the intelligent, powerful women that I know about why the guy they’re seeing hasn’t texted them back. Ladies let me save you the headache, there are only two reasons for this:
1. He’s legitimately busy.
Yes, it can be that simple. You’re a powerful woman and therefore you lead a busy lifestyle. And you want a partner who can keep up with you, so you wouldn’t expect anything less from him, right? So while you’re sitting here stewing, thinking about what you’ve done wrong, he’s working his butt off to get to the end of his day so that he can talk to you.
The 25 text messages you sent after the first hello are not helping him get there any faster.
2. Maybe he’s done.
That’s fine.… You wouldn’t really want to spend your time on someone who would treat you like this anyway. He’s a total jerk for not being upfront about it. He should at least speak to you like a human, instead of ghosting like a millennial.
This man is clearly not worth your energy or tears.
Which brings me to my next point. I have a few small simple rules that I choose to live my life by, one of which being to never spend more energy on someone then they would spend on me.
Because as you’re sitting around with your girlfriends talking about what an asshole he was, you know he’s not sitting around with his friends talking about you.
I know that’s harsh, but it’s true. What I’ve never been able to understand is why the brilliant strong women I know would choose to spend their time beating themselves up for someone who was clearly not good enough for them.
Try this the next time you find yourself in this situation: take the energy that you’re devoting to feeling rejected and put it towards your passion.
Take that energy out into the world and redirect it into something like going for a hike, writing, painting, spending time with people you love or just doing whatever that thing is that makes you feel alive.
Do this and I guarantee you will feel as powerful as you actually are.
He will text you or he won’t. He’ll talk to you or he won’t. Don’t lose sleep over it.
You’ve got way more important things to do than to worry about someone who’s not worrying about you.